Sunday, March 28, 2010
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Easton has been asking when it is his turn, and I’m pleased to tell him TODAY! He doesn’t fully understand why I am doing this, but he just wants it to be his turn. He doesn’t want to be left out. Everything must be even, fair and equal. He gets that from me. Poor kid! It must all be fair!
He is very kind hearted, gentle, organized kid. He says the sweetest things, and worries about you when you are upset. He tries to say and do things that will make you feel better and smile. Easton is an organized child. He likes things to be in a straight line, matched up, and even. He is not a “neat” child, but organized. Toys mess, food mess, things being out of place does not bother him. When he is working on a project or playing with a toy, he wants it to be completed. It has taught us to be a little more patient with him. Things must be “finished” in his mind to continue on. I recall a time when he was only 18 months old and we were heading to nap. I saw it in his head that he was going to disobey to turn around, pick up a ring toy, and place it correctly to “finish” the stack before rushing into his bedroom and comply with his instructions to go to bed. Watching him, Dan and I shake our heads. He is a little Dan, through and through and through!
Easton was born at 3 pounds, 12 ounces. He has loved his food from the beginning. There was a time in the NICU that he had to go NPO (without food by mouth) and he had the saddest, little pout about him, it was pitiful! I still get that lip from him today, but now I can verbally explain that he doesn’t NEED an extra brownie, toast or roll :)
Enjoy our Easton. He truly was honored to sit down and thought through each of his answers!
What is your name? Easton Carl Slater
What name does Daddy call you? Buddy and Squirt
What name does Mommy call you? Easton
What is your favorite color? BLUE
What is your favorite TV show? Diego
What is your favorite movie? I like Jafar (Aladdin - this cracks me up because he has only seen it 1 time)
What is your favorite snack? corn puffs
What is your favorite drink? juice
What is your favorite food? cereal
What is your favorite thing to do outside? play with balls
What is your favorite to do with Mommy? color
What is your favorite to do with Daddy? mow the lawn and wrestle
What do you think about Jesus? (looks up, deep in thought) Heaven
What do you like about your church class? play with everybody
What is Daddy’s favorite thing? eat chips
What is Mommy’s favorite thing? give hugs
Are you excited for something? MY BIRTHDAY!
What do you like to do with Dalton? play games
What do you like to do with Quinton? play Trios
What is your favorite toy? my Trios
What is your favorite game? Memory
What is your favorite? all my shoes
What is your favorite clothes to wear? my short sleeve shirts
What is your favorite pjs? my aligator pj’s
What is your favorite place to go visit? Grammy and Papa
When you grow up, what do you want to be? an Army guy
When you grow up, what kind of car do you want to drive?a blue and red truck
How old do you have to be to drive a car? 8
How old is an adult? 4
Anything else I should know about you? I like all my special stuff
Monday, March 22, 2010
Dalton kept asking me why I was asking him questions. He just wanted to wrap his head around the purpose. “To share on my blog” means NOTHING to him. He did sit down with me, but was ready to go back to playing when we were done.
Dalton was born the biggest of my three boys. 4 pounds, 1 ounce. Dan had it in his head that “Dalton” was a “big” name and so it was determined that our biggest born would be named that way. Since he was a preemie, he has been a very cuddly boy. I have always called him my squishy since he just can meld into you with hugs. He is a very agile and coordinated little boy. However, you pair that with a very cautious manner and he is thankfully not swinging from the fan! :) He is naturally coordinated, from a VERY young age and picks up physical tasks quickly. Many times he is in tune with what is going on and acts like the “older” brother helping his brothers do things. He has been able to dress himself since he was 2, put his own shoes on, coat on, and zip his coat. He will “help” zip his brothers coats and “help” them buckle in their car seats.
As much as he is a help, the other part of the time his mind works very mischievously. “How can I make my brothers squeal” is at the forefront of his brain. He is a true brother!
What is your name? Dalton Thomas
What name does Daddy call you? Squirt
What name does Mommy call you? Dalton Thomas
What is your favorite color? Green
What is your favorite TV show? Imagination Movers
What is your favorite movie? Tarzan
What is your favorite snack? Animal Crackers
What is your favorite drink? Lemonaid
What is your favorite food? Peanut Butter toast
What is your favorite thing to do outside? play with balls and stuff
What is your favorite to do with Mommy? Give hugs
What is your favorite thing to do with Daddy? wrestle!
What do you think about Jesus? He doesn’t do bad things
What do you like to do in church class? play on the playground
What is Daddy’s favorite thing? Wrestling with me
What is Mommy’s favorite thing? Giving me hugs and kisses
Are you excited for something? My BIRTHDAY!
What do you like to do with Easton? play outside
What do you like to do with Quinton? I don’t like to play with Quinton when he is whining
What is your favorite toy? my trains
What is your favorite game? Jump over Daddy
What is your favorite shoes? tennis shoes
What is your favorite clothes to wear? my red short sleeve shirt
What is your favorite pjs? my Snowman PJs
What is your favorite place to go visit? Grandpa’s house
When you grow up, what do you want to be? A Daddy
When you grow up, what kind of car do you want to drive? a red truck like Grandpa’s
How old do you have to be to drive a car? a big kid
How old is an adult? 20
Anything else I should know about you? Can I go back and play now?
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Friday, March 19, 2010
I want to first say a HUGE thank you to all of you who have prayed for Bethany and our family. I am truly humbled and blessed knowing that so many people have joined this group. I am amazed by the amount of love and support our family has received just through facebook alone. Its just amazing that so many people have shown their support and love to our family during this extremely difficult time.
Bethany was and will continue to be my hero. Her life on this earth was extremely short, but it made such an impact. God placed her on this earth for so many reasons. She brought so much laughter and joy on a daily basis. Her character and spirit was so playful and silly. Bethany was such a trooper and that fact alone taught us to be stronger and to endure. She NEVER let the cancer in her body get her down. She knew she was sick but she never moped around seeking pity. She endured... she lived every day with zeal for life.
The last 2 weeks of Bethany's life was beyond difficult for our family. It was so hard physically seeing the cancer finally take control of Bethany's life. Through out Bethany's life, people use to say to us that they never would have guessed Bethany even had cancer. They used to say: "put a wig on her and you would think she was just fine." Well, the last 2 weeks of her life, everything changed. By the time she passed on, the cancer had spread to every single part of her body. She was in so much pain. Bethany was on constant extremely high dose pain medicine. Even on all of those meds, we could barely move her without causing her to scream out in pain. She stopped eating and walking. I have to say, even through all of this difficult time, every now and then, the true Bethany showed through. She wanted to walk and talk, but just couldn't.
Tuesday, March 9th, was her last full day of life. She basically slept and cried the whole day. We were having such a hard time seeing her this way. Around 8pm on that day, her breathing started to sound very labored and full of fluid/blood. We thought it was going to happen quickly. So, my husband and I stayed awake. However, she kept breathing and breathing. By 3 am, both my husband and I fell asleep, Mike was holding Bethany and I was sitting on the couch next to him. Then, right around 5am, Mike woke me up and said that Bethany was gone. She had waited until we were sleeping and at peace.
The morning after she passed went by so quickly. The hospice team came, some close friends came and our pastor came. We spent some beautiful time with Bethany's body and eventually the funeral directors came and got her body. The sweetest thing was what Mike said that day. When God gave us Bethany, Mike was the first person to hold her. It was like he was physically receiving the gift from God. Then when she passed away, he was the last person to hold her. He was the one who carried her to the funeral director's van and laid her body down. Mike said it felt like it came full circle... he received Bethany from God and then he gave her back to God. That is truly how we feel right now. We are so blessed that God would consider Mike and I to take care of Bethany while here on earth. Through God's help, we did every little thing possible to give Bethany the best treatment possible. The day Bethany was diagnosed with cancer, I knew deep inside that her life was going to be a difficult road. However, I knew God was going to be with us through every single obstacle.
Earlier I mentioned that I knew God had placed Bethany in our lives for so many reasons. I truly believe that the greatest reason Bethany was placed in our lives was to help us fall in love with God so much more. The greatest lesson I have learned through out all of this is: GOD IS FAITHFUL. My relationship with the Lord is the only thing that has kept me going. God's love for me and my family has never failed and because of that we have the strength and peace to make it day to day!!!
Bethany's funeral last Saturday, was really a testimony of God's faithfulness. I couldn't have asked for a better service. It was so beautiful.
I know that sooooo many people have been touched by Bethany's life. So many of you have contacted me personally and shared so much of your life with me. I say this to ask one last question: What should I do with this facebook group? Obviously, I believe it is an awesome tool to talk to people and rally prayer. Should I change the name? I was thinking about keeping the group, but I'm just not sure right now. Please share your opinions.
Thank you once again, from the bottom of my heart!!! Your love and support is just mind blowing. Even the support we have received financially is just amazing! Wow! I could go on and on... but I will stop here.
May God Bless you greatly!!!
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Three weeks shy of four years ago, this reading frenzy stopped abruptly when our triplets came into our lives. However, the reading urge is still in me. So I decided to start reading more books now, and posting my reviews. It's a way to keep me reading more. You might like what I say, or hate what I say, or not care what I say. It's ok! I'm doing this for me.
Then I also found a company called Book Sneeze. You sign up to be a book review blogger, and in turn they send you a free book to review! How cool is that?
So check out my other book blog called "Momma Reads".
You will find children's books on there, fiction, devotionals, and articles. Probably the only books you won't find are academia, I'll leave that up to my husband. Please feel free to leave a comment, your own review of the book, another book suggestion, or just a hello!
Thursday, March 4, 2010
DONATE VIA PAYPAL:
If you want to donate via Paypal, just log into your account. Choose the tab "Send Money". Put in the following email address: firstname.lastname@example.org Put in the amount you choose to bless them with. Change the tab under the amount to "Personal" and choose the "Gift" option. (this will not charge the Hagerman family the fee for sending this blessing). Submit and it's that easy!
DONATE VIA MAIL:
If you would rather send a check, gift card, note, please write a check to "Mike and Amy Hagerman" and mail it to:
Hagermans c/o Jones
1632 W. Norton Avenue
Muskegon, MI 49441
Now, for those of you that didn't see my previous posts about this precious family, you can do so here and here.
Please continue praying for this family! This is the note I received this morning from Amy; Bethany's mom:
Dear prayer warriors,
I will FOREVER be grateful for all of the people who have joined this group. Your prayers have meant so much to me and our family. May I encourage you to keep praying, keep seeking God, continue to grow closer to HIM and continue to have faith!!
In the last couple of days, Bethany has taken a major turn for the worse. The blood and platelet transfusions that she once was receiving to help bring energy and comfort, no longer work. She is in so much pain and is just miserable. These last 3 days, nothing about Bethany is normal. It is beyond difficult to see her this way. She doesn't talk, walk, eat, or play. When she tries to talk it comes out like a scream and doesn't usually make sense. She refuses to wear any clothes or a diaper. She has bruises everywhere and her eyes look like a grown man has punched her. They are swollen to the point when she tries to open her eyes you can barely see the whites of them. All we can do at this point is hold her close. We snuggle with blankets and towels. We try everything we can to give her comfort. She is on a continual i.v. of pain medicine. We are hoping this really helps her.
I apologize if this is very difficult to read.
Many of you have been very concerned for Mike and my well being through all of this. Please know that we are hanging in there. Not many people understand this, but our emotions are kind of numb. All we desperately want at this point is for Bethany to be pain free and not in misery any more. We are stressed, however, I honestly am amazed how well we are handling it so far. There are certain people that have been placed in our life that have made things so much easier. The hospice team are extremely professional and truly a God send. Our pastor has been so sensitive and amazing. There are friends that I have that I know I can call any time of the day and will do any little thing that needs to be done. The love and support is above all I could imagine. Seriously, as horrible as this time in our life is... GOD KNOWS!! Because He knows, He has provided in every area. I will continue to place my trust in Him. The very last worry I have has to do with the financial burden of the funeral. I have been told it is extremely expensive. With that being said, I have to just sit back and see that God is going to help provide means to cover all of those expenses. I can't let the stress of finances bother me at this point.
Okay, I better end this update... but before I do. I would like to personally invite you and your family to Bethany's funeral when it happens. Mike and I want this funeral to be a beautiful event that pays wonderful tribute to our princess/trooper. Also, this funeral is going to be an event that will bring so much glory and praise to God. We are praying that so many people will come to know God through this. As many of you know, Mike and my goal from the very beginning of this journey was that God would be glorified through all of this and that our life story would be a testimony to the love of God and HIS strength.
Thank you once again from the bottom of my heart for all of your love, prayers, support and encouragement. May God truly bless you in such a huge way!!